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Dedication
for Dru
Table of Contents
- Acknowledgments
- Welcome!
- Part I: Communication Dynamics
- 1: The usual error
- 2: Different communication styles
- 3: Different personality types
- 4: The other half of communication
- 5: Checking in
- 6: I already know this, but I need to hear you say it again
- 7: What problem are you trying to solve?
- 8: Feeling considered
- Part II: Boundaries
- 9: Holding healthy boundaries
- 10: Fierceness
- 11: Ask for what you need
- 12: I am not green
- 13: “I” statements
- 14: It’s not all about me
- Part III: Turning Conflict into Communication
- 15: What did you intend?
- 16: The next time I ask for $1000, just give me a veggie burger instead!
- 17: We’re on the same team
- 18: Coming to terms
- 19: Meta-communication
- 20: Memory
- 21: Trust your future self
- 22: Giving permission to disappoint
- Part IV: Conflict Resolution
- 23: The only way out is through
- 24: The William James zone
- 25: The lollipop
- 26: What do I get out of being right?
- 27: Reflection
- 28: Verbal aikido
- Part V: Positivity!
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